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Learning to rely on your own thinking can help you manage anxiety. Relationship systems are small economies. Look closely at your family, or your workplace, and you’ll see that there is a good amount of borrowing, lending, and trading of what  Dr. Murray Bowen called "self." When people close to us are in distress, we lend our abilities, our calmness, and our  confidence . And when we are  anxious , we borrow them from others. This system of borrowing and lending can be very effective at stabilizing relationships. But the constant, automatic borrowing of self takes its toll. I often marvel at how much “self” a person loses when they get married. When I lived alone, taking out the trash was a manageable chore. Now that my husband handles this task, it feels like a Herculean effort when he’s traveling. I can navigate well when I’m driving alone, but put him in the passenger seat, and I might ask his opinion on the route. What is it about adding another person

1.  It is often said that every long journey begins with the first small steps. And today is exactly your first step. That step is to believe in the miracle of creation, to believe in the most powerful law of the Universe. "I always live in the Law of Attraction" Did you know that you have lived & applied the Law of Attraction throughout your life, there is not a single moment you did not live in it. You use it for both what you want and what you don't want. Every person, every event, every case comes to you every day through the Law of Attraction. "A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes." ~ MOHANDAS KARAMCHAND GANDHI (1869-1948) 2. Limited words to avoid You can limit yourself to stories that you create yourself. Here are some simple examples of stories that you create yourself, and they'll get you limited: "I'm not good at math. I can never dance. I am not a good wr

Being a parent is a difficult job: to educate and teach values and correct behavior without hurting a child seems to be nearly impossible. But researchers say, constructive criticism is easy, if you do it right. This is where the sandwich method comes in — to make parenting more effective and enjoyable for both sides! Child psychiatrist, Dr. Daniel Amen, shares that many parents either express their complaints in a very rough way or, on the contrary, are afraid to talk too harshly to their children. Dr. Amen has identified 2 characteristics that can make a positive difference in parenting: being both firm and loving. When parents are being specific and firm about unwanted behavior, but present it with love, kindness, and care, they will always have good results. Here’s how it works — wrap criticism in soft but truthful comments and praise, so that the child does not take your words too critically. Praise Before you get to the point, try to start the conversati

Let’s be honest: We’re confusing the two. Let’s all be honest here: we’re confusing being productive with being busy. I’ve learned that the really great stuff in life—the true growth and breakthroughs—come after periods of time when we’re productive. Consistently working on what’s going to get us to where we want to be. Instead, too many of us are focused on being busy. And people who are busy often are the least productive. How many times has someone asked you, “How are you?” or “What’s going on in your life?” and you’ve answered, “I’m so busy!” The logical next question they ask is, “What are you so busy with?” And you pause and think for a minute, and then respond with a laundry list of the tasks on any given day’s to-do list. Or maybe you offer up an exhausted, “Oh, you know,  life .” I’m not judging, truly. I’ve given those responses. Many, many times. Before and after I was a mom, a super-successful entrepreneur, and an author. And every time I offered up a similar resp

By Dr. Noelle Nelson My resolution for the New Year is actually very simple: The 20 Minute Rule. It means I no longer allow myself to worry over anything for more than 20 minutes. Anything. Not the state of my health, finances, relationships, the world - anything. Why should this rank as a valid resolution? Well, because too often whatever the worry is can all too easily morph into a perfectly awful, depressing, miserable whole day. I have done that more than once, and it never made the worrisome thing go away. So, yes, for me at least, a valid resolution. Sounds easy, right? Huh! Try it. Dang. Because it's no fair stopping the worry about, say, the balance in my checking account after 20 minutes, only to start worrying about it again an hour or two later. Certainly not about the same dismal balance. Why 20 minutes? Because it often takes me about 20 minutes to realize I've been obsessively worrying about something--and what does all the worry get you? More worry.

By Heather Mathews  Author of Manifestation Miracle “Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.” ― Zig Ziglar Michael, a husband and a father of two and in his early fifties, was a logistics manager at a frozen foods company. He made enough to provide for his family, and by all accounts, they were doing alright… … but he knew he could do  MORE. He’d been dreaming of making it out of his job and starting his own business. And on top of that, he wanted to lose weight. His doctor told him was about 40 pounds overweight, and he needed to trim down. So he set out to get up earlier in the morning to make time for himself and work on his dreams. He’d get up at 5:30 am to exercise, have a light breakfast and do some research on his business. For the first month and a half, he stuck to his new routine. It felt empowering; Michael was motivated to get out of bed to get a jump